I am a mom but not in your ordinary terms. I stumbled upon motherhood when I was twenty. It wasn’t really something I planed on, but God did. I came to Mexico when I was 19, fresh out of High School to wash laundry for a year at Rancho Sordo Mudo, a school for the Deaf. At the end of the year I was asked to come back as dorm parent for the next school term. I was ecstatic, I had hoped I would be asked and I was! I didn’t picture myself down here for very long just another year or two. I planned to go to college even though by that point I wasn’t sure I wanted to go, it was just what you did. I thought about going to Bible College, that could be fun. Yet God once again had other plans. Since that first year of mommyhood I have been a “mama” to 30 deaf girls. Some I have had for seven years others for only a few months but they all hold a special place in my heart. I can’t imagine life without them. We’ve gone through ups and downs good and bad yet I still love them dearly. Some girls that have left I keep in contact with via webcam or facebook. Others I haven’t heard from in a few years. Even then they are still my girls. I still think about them, pray for them and love them.
Mommy to Thirty
Would you know that’s I’m already a grandma and have been one for a couple years now? How’s that for a 26 year old? Mom of 30, Grandma to 4. That’s what happens when you’re a mom to girls only a few years younger than yourself.
I think one of the hardest things is that they are not mine to keep. At the end of each school year I have to give them back to their own families. Sometimes their parents don’t bring them back and never say why. It rips your heart out. There’s a whole handful that I don’t even know where they are anymore. Most of my precious girls come from single mom homes, with families that don’t know sign language and don’t have a relationship with Christ. That’s when I remember who’s they truly are; not mine, not their family’s but God’s. He knows where all my ninas are right now. He is there for them in their time of darkness that I can’t be. He is right by their side.
It’s cool how God works. How his plans are so different than our own. Ten years ago I would never have still seen myself still here, in Mexico taking care off a bunch of girls. Yet here I am. I have made so many wonderful relationships over my time spent here. I have many amazing “daughters” and some of my closets friendship have been started here. I don’t know what the future holds. Yes, there’s still that part of me that longs to fall in love, to get married and have children. For now this is where my Heavenly Papa has me. For how long I don’t know. I’ll be here till he leads me elsewhere. For now I am learning to simply trust him and enjoy the life he has given me and cherish the special moments I have with my girlies.
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You are an absolute inspiration. Thank you for the love, service and sacrifice you give!
Thanks Lydia. God puts each of us where he wants us to be. He gave you the gift of your husband and five little ones. He has given me my girls for this point in time. He’s using each us for her glory, just in different ways.
Mare, oh the posssibilites!!! Thank you for the ideas!
Michele, thank you! 🙂
MommySetFree, thank you!
Blessings to you all!
marillyn @ just-making-noise
Katie, I would do one of the two things… put together a large calendar that can be reuse each month (much like those dry-erase kinds). Print off pictures (make the size a little smaller than the squares of each day) of each girl. Use sticky tack and put one girl up for each day. When that month is over… start over for the next month.
You can make your own calendar on the computer and paste the pictures in the squares and print off a whole year. You have 30 girls right? Perfect… you’ll have a few months with a day that’s empty, but you can use that day for something special.
I like the big calendar idea better… you can adjust it to make it your size, but its less work. You can just use cardboard covered with pretty paper or even a magnet board… make headings for the names of the months and mark off squares or circles for the days of the month and print off pictures and stick them up there. If you use a magnet board you can buy magnet strips for the monthly headings and pictures. Now I like that idea! LOL!!
Sorry! Once I get rolling… the ideas won’t stop. Hope I didn’t confuse you too much ;o)
What a special Yah (God) honoring story! Thanks for sharing it. May He bless you and keep you where ever He leads you!
Michele @ Frugal Granola
You’re an awesome Mama, Katie. 🙂
Great idea! I have had a list that I rotate thru but a collage with their pictures is something I had never thought of it. What do you think is a good way to go about that without taking up a TON of space?
Aww! This is great! Brings back so many memories of living there. Yeah, I felt like a mama to a few of the “challenging” girls (Rosario, Martha, Lizette, etc..). Even though they drove us crazy with their crazy hormones… I loved them. They stole my heart :o) I still think of them a lot… especially Martha and Rosario. I know they are in tough situation, but like you said.. they are in the center of God’s hand. All we can do it pray for them whenever they come to mind. Do you have a special collage board on your wall with all the pictures of the girls that you have been mama to? You should… it can become your prayer reminders.
Oooh, I just had a good idea. You should make your own calendar and place a picture of a girl everyday… that way you can look at the day and pray for that girl. Then the next day you will pray for the next girl and so on. Then just repeat the beginning when you get to the last girl. That way they are constantly in your mind and prayers. I LOVE THIS iDEA!! If you do it… please let me know!!