Dishes are piled up in the sink. You’re pulling clean underwear out of the dryer for your potty training toddler. Your kids need a bath (and a haircut, too). Dinner is looking like scrambled eggs (again). And you’re pretty sure you didn’t win any awards for “the Most Patient and Gentle Mommy” today.
When I look back over my years as a dorm mama to my sweet girls I think about some of the things that could happen in a day…
One of my middle girls decided to let the older girls pierce her ears, with a dirty sewing needle…. Same said child, was peroxiding her hair for over a week before I noticed.
One of my little girls was hoarding some of her dirty clothes…
….that day I was doing laundry only to find a pile of poop in someone’s underwear.
One of my sweet thing’s tongue was blue because she tried to eat marker…
…The preteen decided it was a good idea to press the hair dryer into the new carpet. Same child melted carpet on the other end of the house with an iron.
….a couple of my other preteens kids forgot to shut the chickens in for the night, now my front lawn (AKA, the patch of dirt and weeds) was now covered in feathers….
The time I decided to cut one of my girl’s hair myself, oh yes, that was GREAT….You would like I would have learned…
The list can go on… (Belive me it does). If Instagram had been around in my early to mid-20s so many of my days would have been #momfail days.
Can you relate?
In fact, on days like this you might be tempted to judge yourself even more harshly than that. Not only were you not at your best, but actually, you’re a terrible mom. A pathetic homemaker. The day was a disaster. You probably deserve an F minus in motherhood.
And on and on goes the litany in your head as you stew about the ways you didn’t match up or weren’t enough or were too whatever (angry, critical, impatient, disorganized, fill in the blank).
You snap a shot of your depressing laundry pile after the kids go to bed and share it on Instagram with a self-deprecating comment and the hashtag #momfail. It’s only meant as a joke, of course, but deep down it feels a little truer than you wish it did.
If this sounds even remotely familiar, you need to know two things:
- You are not. Most of us feel this way far more than we ever admit.
- All the ways you failed?? How awful you did today or last week? It’s just not true. You’re doing better than you think.
I’ve had these sorts of days myself, and it’s precisely because I get it that I’m so excited to point you in the direction of this brand new (and free!) video series created by two moms who have lived their fair share of #momfail days.
Stephanie and Beth are not only popular bloggers, but they’re also moms in the trenches. They’ve got 8 kids and almost 20 years of mothering experience between them.
They also understand and have the deepest compassion for moms who are working their tails off, but still hitting the pillow at night with a heavy heart and tear-stained face, because they feel like they’re failing at one of the most important things they’ll ever do in their lives.
And so they’ve put together an honest, candid and incredibly encouraging series of three videos just for moms. It’s called “The Truth About #MomFail Culture: 10 Things You Need to Hear on the Hard Days”.
It won’t solve all your problems, and much as they wish they could, they can’t reach through the computer and fold that pile’o’laundry for you. But we can all benefit from a fresh perspective and encouragement from someone who really gets it.
Each video is short – around 10 minutes, and you can watch it on any sort of device and whenever you’ve got a few spare minutes.
To watch the video series, just click this link and enter your name and email to sign up. You’ll get access to the first video today, and then one per day after that.