Virtuous Girlhood: Waiting


Update March 2014. I originally wrote this article for a Christian teenage girls blog that is no longer live. I decided to repost it here to share it with you all with a few changes. While it’s not what you would normally find here I hope you can share it with a teenage girl you know or if you are a single gal like me take what applies to you to heart. 

God has been teaching me some very painful yet beautiful lessons recently that I think every girl and woman needs to remember. Like most girls one of my greatest desires outside of serving my Heavenly Papa is to get married and raise a family. Yet at this time in my life that isn’t what he has for me. I am hopeful that someday God will bring that right man into my life but for now I am in a period of waiting.

What I do in this time of waiting is my choice, am I going to sit around like a bump on a log or am I going to be active in serving and preparing? There are so many things you can do while you wait on the LORD. We need to use our time now as single girls and young women to serve and praise our Maker.

Start now learning how to a keeper of your home

 If you aren’t already helping your mom with the cooking and cleaning (which I’m sure most if not all of you already do), ask her to teach you those things that you have not learned yet. Learn to make menu plans and take over the cooking for a while. She could teach you how to make up a budget for food and other house hold needs. 

Learn to take care of children

 If you don’t have younger siblings, babysitting sitting and nanning is a great way to learn how to take care of younger kids. You could also volunteer in the church nursery. Maybe there’s a young couple with a new baby in town that would be blessed with a night out. You can work on learning to care for children while ministering to the couple by giving them a much needed date night. 

Start a home business

This is something that I would like to do on the side some day. It is wonderful way to supplement your income if needed and still be able to care for your husband, children and home. 

Be active in ministry

 You can volunteer in so many different areas. You can serve in your church and community and reach many people for Jesus. Foreign missions is another needed ministry. Which I’m a huge fan of, part of that is because that’s what God has me doing right now. I have been living in Mexico for the past seven years now being a “mom” to sixteen girls at a Rancho Sordo Mudo, a home and school for the Deaf. Talk about preparing you to be a keeper of the home. I’ve learned so much about caring for children, teaching, planning, organizing, cooking, cleaning, gardening and raising chickens; as well as how to get along with people from very different walks of life. There are also many ministries that love any help they can get, even if you just went for a few weeks. So many are waiting to hear about Jesus, wither it’s next door or around the world. 

 I love the meaning that is behind LORD verses Lord. Lord or Adonai shows God’s lordship and position as Maker. LORD on the other hand is the English translation for YHWH (Yahweh) emphasizing his position as Covenant Maker and Keeper. Our Heavenly Papa is so faithful to do what he has promised. If our desire to be a wife and mother is in his will then it will come to pass. Yet at the same time it is needful to remember that may not be part of his plans. 

God can use this time of waiting to draw us closer to him. As I look back over the years I can see how much more intimate my relationship with Jesus became. Even though those times were painful, God drew me to him.  I was absolutely dependant I was on him, clinging to my Savior. I want to always be that desperate for God regardless if I am waiting on an answer from him or not. I want to daily be used by Jesus for his glory.

Here is a wonderful book to read to learn how to use this time of waiting, “Preparing to be a Help Meet”. I’ve read it twice and have many friends who learned so much from it! 

Here is a great song called “While I’m Waiting” that makes you think about how to use your time while waiting on the LORD. I hope you enjoy!

About Katie Mae Stanley

Katie Mae Stanley is the writer at Nourishing Simplicity, where the focus is on nourishing foods, herbal remedies, simple living and faith. Ethnic and Mid-west foods are always a favorite in her kitchen and on her blog. She is also the author of the book Steeped: Simple Nourishing Teas and Treats. Katie Mae spent 10 years as a missionary dorm "mama" for a gaggle (almost 40) of amazing deaf girls at a school for the deaf in Baja California, Mexico. Now she finds herself state side ready to embrace God's next adventure. A cup of tea or coffee and a bit of dark chocolate make an appearance at some point in any given day. You can connect with the Nourishing Simplicity community on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.


  1. Kelly, thank you for your sweet comment! Where you looking for more Virtuous Girlhoos post on my blog or the actual VG blog? That way I can better know which links to send you. Blessings!

  2. Hey, Katie is it? My name is Kelly how are you? I would love to read more but I can not seem to find Virtuous Girlhood. Could you send me a link to all of them? Also I love what your doing there in Mexico with those girls! I wish my bio-girls and I could visit. We are wanting to adopt but it is expensive and we would probably “have” to add on before we would be aloud to adopt any children. We have our hearts set on a sibling group of 5, they are African American and they might not feel comfortable living with us, since we are white, but we sure would love to adopt an unfortunate sibling group! My daughters are 12, 7 and 4, they are wanting sisters each their own age and they would sure love a brother or two!!! You say you are unmarried? How old are you? I think it is great you are not sitting around moping, but serving God while you wait!!! Keep in touch if you would like. Maybe a couple of your “girls” would like to be pen-pals with my girls? Just let me know. In Christ Jesus, ~Kelly~

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